“Personally, I can’t say that I’ve received the brunt of bullying before. Small instances, sure, but at this point in time, I haven’t experienced what bullying really is. However, several of my closest friends have. One was told multiple times that she had “a beer belly” when she was only 11. Another was exploited and pushed down endlessly at her weakest point. Another got into a fairly unhealthy relationship whose mental detriments stuck with her for months on end. No, I haven’t personally experienced any true bullying, but seeing other people in my own community be tormented is something that I can’t continue to watch. While bullying is something that a lot of my classmates believe “isn’t a problem” for us, it is one of our biggest setbacks. I’ve seen the mental effects; the loss of confidence, the consistent anxiety, the depression, and I refuse to let it continue on.” – Addison

“Well basically when I was in 5th grade I joined a new school and I got the typical new kid bully treatment. I thought it’d get better once I settled down but it still went on for a while. In 8th grade, it started up again with 2 boys who bullied me all the time. I wasn’t too fazed by it. I was just really pissed off and even when I told the teachers it still went on so I just kept quiet. In 9th grade, both those boys left the school so since then I haven’t been bullied.” – Anadil

“Ever since I was young I’ve been very scrawny and weak looking, though my bullying experiences have mostly been verbal, they’ve always affected my confidence in my looks and self-worth ever since. People in school and even relatives would constantly talk about how weak I look and would even question my sexuality even though I’d never acted or dressed questionably but simply because I didn’t see a need to look masculine. This affected my teenage life significantly as I would constantly feign illnesses so that I didn’t have to leave for school because I didn’t want to be seen or judged by anybody. To this day I constantly wear hoodies, sweatshirts, sweatpants and such to hide my physical insecurities and would feel tremendous anxiety doing simple everyday tasks such as crossing the road or walking in a crowd because I feel vulnerable in fear that everyone would judge my appearance even if they did not. I learned to cover up the pain of hearing these things by laughing along or even insulting myself, however, I am fully aware that it destroys my self-worth and my ability to socialize as I just want to keep to myself where nobody can make fun of me.” – Jervis

“I wanted to share my experiences with bullying. In the 5th grade, I didn’t have many friends. Maybe 5 or 6 that I considered to be friends. Then, a girl of that friend group (let’s call her Hailey) told all of my other friends not to talk to me. Soon I had no friends. I spent recess alone, hiding under the playground equipment. At lunch, I begged my teacher to let me come in so that I could grade papers because anything was better than lunch. At lunch, nobody sat with me. I had an entire table all to myself. The rest of the class would sit really close together and almost squish themselves so that they didn’t have to sit near me. This went on for a few months. They talked about me behind my back and used code words to say bad stuff about me in front of me. It was a really dark time… but finally, I got one of my teachers to handle it. When that happened, Hailey just ranted about how much she hated me in front of me. Despite all of this, I forgave her in the end. Now, Hailey and I are not friends, but we still see each other sometimes.” – Leigh

“I admired one of the other participant’s courage and growth because she spoke to me about the past of being a victim of bullying. I feel good about myself being able to spread the message of stopping violence & being able to be a role model for others. Thank you for bringing me into PARTI. You have become a big positive influence in my life. I have been able to grow so much through the program and it has helped me gain a great amount of confidence in myself which I can honestly say, I lacked when I was first was brought into the program. I am so much more vocal and social. I have found it so much easier to be in front of crowds. I feel like I have grown a lot because of you & your program. Thank you.” – Jasmine

“Coming into this school there were many fights and problems amongst other students, but ever since this program was brought to our school there has been less fights and situations. This program helps me have a voice and be heard so we don’t end up like other communities where they feel they need to cause destruction and be violent to get someone to listen to them. I am thankful I got to help.” – Leslie

“What is unique about our program is that it is the only one of its kind in the Bay.” – Kevin

“The P.A.R.T.I. Program is the most effective non-violence initiative in America. Leaders, I am a business professional and I have attended a few of the ‘Stop The Violence’ events put on by the P.A.R.T.I. Program. I am always amazed at how teenagers from all ethnic and financial backgrounds work diligently together to accomplish their common goal. We must ensure that their work will continue.” – lmani Groce

“I am blessed to have found this Program. This becomes an outlet and creates a safe and positive environment for us to grow in. I hope that we are able to reach others through this program. I am very thankful for being allowed to be a part of making a change in our communities. Thank you to the P.A.R.T.I. Program and everyone in it.” – Jessica Castaneda

“P.A.R.T.I. Squad is a positive movement. P.A.R.T.I. Squad works to keep youth in the community active and strives to educate others who are less fortunate. In this day where there are a growing number of single family homes, it is very important that we support programs that promote peace. With continued budget cuts in the education area kids today are left to be raised by the streets. PARTI gives kids choices.” – Julie Clayton

“The P.A.R.T.I. Squad has been on our campus (Oak Grove High School) for the past six years. Winston and his group have been involved in our challenge day, involved with our no bullying group, leadership group, and has been running fashion shows and Stop the Violence rallies that have included many Oak Grove students. The PARTI Squad is well respected on campus.” – Jeffrey A Gingrich

“I am honored to have an opportunity to tell everyone who reads this about the great program Winston Ashby has created. I have worked with Winston and attended his events over the years. The P.A.R.T.I. Program is an excellent program designed for youth to prosper into professional, successful adults.” – Tysha of LockaMe Designs

“My daughter & I recently worked with Winston for one of his shows. His commitment to our youth is amazing. His effectiveness as a role model gives our youth something to believe in. His vision for ‘a better way’ is awe inspiring and through the help of grants he WILL make the change for our youth!” – Christine Herrera

“As a counselor in a middle school, I see firsthand the way that our youth are bored and lonely without parents at home or programs to engage them. This boredom then turns into drug & alcohol abuse, gang life & a myriad of other poor choices that have a serious effect on their futures. PARTI provides an alternative to the negative & an opportunity for success. More money would help more deserving kids!” – Allison Fine

“I am very impressed with the efforts of P.A.R.T.I. Program’s events and shows. My students are excited that we‘ve recently brought it to our school. With further financial assistance, they can only bloom and grow. We‘d appreciate any aid and support to improve their program.” – Josh Greene (Student Services, Andrew Hill High School)

“I have worked with Winston for nearly 15 years and his goals and objectives have always been clear – to help change the community through the impact of our young people. The P.A.R.T.I. Program has had a tremendous impact in the South Bay Area and I am looking forward to him expanding his success in other needed communities such as Oakland, San Francisco, and Richmond.” – Erik Bell

“I am a foster parent for teens in Santa Clara County. Several of my teens have participated in this program. I am so pleased that PARTI Program is available for my teens to participate in. It has given them something positive to do and the opportunity to learn new skills and utilize the skills they have. Thank you for being there. Keep up the good work.” – Dianna

“I strongly support the goals, focus and substance of the PARTI Program. Over its decade of existence, it has provided a positive resource for Bay Area teens and has focused them on issues of leadership, team building and community organization. As such services are in dire need of structural support, I urge that every effort be made to aid and support the PARTI Program.” – Jason Stewart

“The PARTI Squad is an excellent program for high school kids needing support and an outlet in their lives. Winston is a great leader and director and wants the best for high school kids and the community. Also, he dedicates his time to lead those in this program. Help and support the needs of many.” – Bianca

“Winston has worked with our students at my high school for about 10 years. I know that different kids are drawn to different programs and different styles. Winston has been successful in making a positive impact on many of our students and his PARTI Squad has been a welcome addition to our activities program. Maybe with a little financial aid he will be able to do more. l hope you can help!” – Jackson

“The PARTI Squad is an excellent program for high school students. Many of the students who have participated, comment that they feel a great sense of pride while being a part of this program. I would recommend this program as an excellent outreach for any high school student.” – Linda

“The PARTI Program serves as a positive outlet for students at our school in which they develop leadership, event planning, and communication skills. The PARTI Program‘s commitment to eradicating violence and bringing our community together through youth empowerment is something our school community desperately needs.” – Tamara

“The PARTI Program is organized by volunteers who are committed to make a change in our community to enhance the lives of the underserved youth. Proposed state budget cuts in our schools will eliminate programs. The PARTI Program will help fulfill the needs of the students by providing programs to educate them in alternative life styles to become productive members of their community.” – Liz Puga

“The PARTI Program is an amazing program for youth. I enjoyed being in the Program when I was in High School and l will continue to be a part of it because of the impact that it has on the lives on teenagers. High school is a critical part of life and the PARTI Program provides its participants with amazing opportunities and it helps them grow into positive individuals and role models for others.” – Lea Nelson

“The students at our high schools need as many partnerships with positive community programs that support positive direction and influencing their present as well as securing their future. It is important that they continue and expand their participation in our schools. I support this program’s vision and I encourage others to do the same. We are seeing the growth in students who have participated.” – Christopher Cade

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